** If you haven’t read the previous entry – Stop Dipping Your Toe In The Water – then please do so before reading the following.

Do you remember our friend Ted? Attractive young guy, athletic, unaware of his strengths and what he has to offer women?

He was at a party where his current love interest – Beth – had just showed up.

What if this were an alternative universe, where Ted no longer used his standard Toe-In-The-Water technique?

In fact, in this reality, Ted had picked up a copy of Confidence Unleashed and had activated a powerful, masculine part of himself that gave him a radical increase in his confidence.

If he were going to “Cannonball” in this situation, what would he do?

Before reading on, take a moment to close your eyes and image how Ted could approach Beth and what he could say to her. By imagining it in your own mind, it’ll actually start to lay the groundwork for you to activate your own boldness and masculine power.

The moment Beth walked into the party, Ted couldn’t take his eyes off of her. She was wearing a long white shirt that exposed her smooth shoulders and tight blue jeans. She looked incredible.

Ted walked directly across the party, looking at her the entire way. She noticed him coming when he was half way across the room and turned to look at him.

He smiled and held her gaze as he continued to walk straight towards her. His body language screamed: “Yes, I see you. I want you. I’m coming to talk with you now.”

(This is the first part of the Cannonball, when you’re running towards the pool).

He walked right up to her and stopped several feet in front of her. He hadn’t taken his eyes off of hers from the moment they connected.

He paused, for just a second, smiled and said, “Hi Beth, I couldn’t help but notice you from over there. You look absolutely stunning.”

“Uh, thank you,” replied Beth, blushing slightly and looking away for a moment.

(This is the moment when you are flying through the air, about to hit the water, yelling “Cannnnoonnn baaalllllllllll!!”)

In this moment, the old Ted would have interpreted her looking away as a sign that he was too forward, too brash. But not this Ted.

He’s learned quite a bit about non-verbal communication and women. Thanks to Confidence Unleashed, he now realizes SHE can get nervous talking to HIM.

“I’m sorry,” Beth said with an apologetic look on her face, “what was your name?”

“What??” Ted replied with exaggerated pain in his voice. “You don’t remember my name? Beth, Beth, Beth, I’m hurt. I thought you cared about me.”

“Haha, no I remember you. I just forgot your name… It starts with an S? Or J?”

“No…No… That’s two strikes. You have one more chance BETH. I always find it important to remember people’s names when I meet them, BETH. But I’ll tell you what. Because you’re so absolutely beautiful, I’ll give you a break. If you guess the first letter of my name, I’ll give you an incredible surprise.”

(At this point, Ted does not have any surprise in mind. He has no idea what that surprise would be, it’s just exciting and fun. He trusts that he can make something up later.)

“Hmm.” Beth grunts as she scrunches up her face in concentration.

“You’re so cute when you’re confused,” Ted interjects.

“Haha, shut up,” Beth says as she playfully slaps his arm. “Wait! Wait! I got it. It starts with a T… Tim… Ted. Ted!”

“Wow!” Ted replies with genuine surprise and delight. “Well done Beth. I didn’t think you had it in you.”

“Well, you know. I am sort of a genius,” she says with a playful smile.

“Apparently so. Well done,” Ted continues to beam at her.

“So…” Beth says expectantly.

“So…” Ted replies, mimicking her tone and facial expression in an exaggerated way.

“What about my surprise?”

“Your surprise? Oh yes. Of course. How could I forget…” Ted says, stalling for time.

“Yeah, what is it?” Beth says with a mixture of curiosity and excitement on her face.

“Well, I can’t tell you now. That would mean it’s no longer a surprise.”

“Aww…” Beth replies with mock disappointment.

“Are you sticking around for a while? I’ll be sure to find you before you go and give you your incredible surprise.”

At this point, Ted leaves the conversation. He smiles and walks away from her. That’s right, HE ends the interaction, even though she still wants to talk with him more.

Several hours later, Beth is talking with two of her friends on the patio area. Ted strides up to all three of them and says…

“Hi ladies, how is it out here?”

After they respond he says to them, “Sorry to interrupt, but I was actually on my way out. Before I go, I have to steal Beth from you for just 30 seconds.”

He reaches over and grabs her hand and gently pulls her towards the other side of the patio.

“Okay, I have your surprise.” Ted says with a slight smile. “It took all evening, but I was able to find it.”

“Really?” she replies.

“Yes, but it’s very soft, fleeting, and fragile. In fact, if you hold it too tightly, it might break. So, I’m going to give it to you, but you have to be very soft and relaxed.”

As he says this, he gently grabs her shoulders and rocks her body back and forth, encouraging her to loosen her shoulders and back.

She laughs and says “Okay, I’m ready. I’ll be careful.”

“Okay. Close your eyes.”

Beth closes her eyes and tunes into her senses, curious and eager.

Ted leans in and gives her a soft, sweet, short kiss on the lips…

Do you want to have this level of boldness?

Do you want to be able to do exactly what Ted is doing?

It’s not a natural born trait or some super power. It’s basic social confidence that you can learn through practice.

—–> Start learning today!

Dr. Aziz