“Effective Public Speaking Will Benefit You At Work!”
“Let’s Face It, Confidence Matters At Work.”
In fact, it impacts your level of career success more than anything else.
Think about it for a minute. You can be the most brilliant, capable person at your job. You can have important ideas and perspectives, which could earn your company millions of dollars.
But if you don’t have the confidence to put those ideas out there in a way that will influence others, then it doesn’t matter.
I can’t tell you how many guys I’ve worked with who are completely frustrated with their jobs because no one listens to them.
They have intelligent ideas and significant perspectives to share, but when it comes to meetings or talks with their supervisors, they freeze up. They don’t say anything, their mind goes blank, or they only share one tenth of what they can.
Or they tentatively put forth their ideas in a way that causes others to think that they don’t know what they’re talking about.
In order to be successful at your job, in order to excel in your career and have more influence and income, you must develop your ability to speak clearly to any size group. You must master your public speaking confidence.
Here are some specific things you can start doing today to make that shift.
“How To Increase Your Public Speaking Confidence At Work”
1. Your Voice Matters
When you’re in that meeting and you don’t say anything… why do you do that? Why do you hold yourself back? What do you tell yourself in order to keep quiet?
- It’s not the right time.
- What if I fumble over my words.
- What if someone shoots me down.
- Maybe my idea isn’t that good anyways.
- What if…
Trust me, I know them all. I spent a decade keeping myself quiet in all kinds of settings. And do you know what I discovered?
The most important underlying idea that’s stopping your from speaking up is this:
What I have to say doesn’t matter. My opinions, perspectives, thoughts, and feelings, don’t matter here. I don’t matter.
And guess what?
…Wow, thanks Aziz. How motivating!
What I’m saying is this:
As long as you don’t think your voice matters, neither will anyone else.
People pick up on your body language, your voice tone, and the level of certainty and authority you convey when you talk. When you’re full of self-doubt and don’t believe that what you say matters, others will subconsciously be more dismissive of you and your ideas.
So how can you change this?
Start by reprogramming your mind.
You DO matter. Your ideas, perspectives, thoughts, and opinions do matter. Your voice matters.
You have something significant to contribute to any group, even if you don’t know as much as someone else there. Your unique perspective is not only important, it’s essential to the conversation at hand.
Don’t believe me?
Or perhaps you want to believe me but you’re filled with self-doubt?
You can create this reality for yourself. Start by stating out loud each day when you are alone: My voice matters. My thoughts and opinions matter. I matter.
Repeat this out loud, with force, conviction and certainty.
When I’m working with a client, I’ll give them this for homework. I’ll tell them, “when you come back next week, I want you to tell me these phrases. I want you to practice them so much and repeat them with such certainty and authority, that when you tell them to me next week it’ll make me believe you believe them.”
When they come back the next week, I pay attention to their body language, their eye contact, and their voice tone to determine if they did in fact practice the phrases. It’s obvious if they haven’t.
Start by saying these phrases out loud many times per day. Then start repeating them in your head while you’re at work on your way to a meeting. Then say them in your own mind while you are sitting there in the meeting… and see what happens next.
2. Improve Your Self-Esteem
Do you think highly of yourself? If you’re inhibiting yourself in groups, not speaking up at work, and not sharing your ideas boldly, then I don’t think you do.
“Now wait a minute,” clients will say to me. “I know I’m a good person, I know people like me and that I’m talented and all that. I don’t have low self-esteem.”
Sure, you’re not the poor wretched fellow living in his mom’s basement who hates himself every moment of the day. Your self-esteem isn’t that low.
But when you’re around high powered people, senior members of your group, supervisors, bosses, or talented peers, do you share your opinions openly? In these situations, you probably feel intimated and on some level and you’re perceiving yourself as less than they are.
That is why it’s essential to learn how to improve your self-esteem.
This will allow you to like who you are, know your strengths and inner value, and let go of the idea that you’re someone inferior to anyone else. Even if they’re better than you at something, it still doesn’t mean you’re an inferior human being.
This stuff all sounds good when we read it, but the proof is in the moment.
If you aren’t speaking up, it’s essential to take action to improve your self-esteem.
Two powerful ways to do that are:
- Get The Confidence Code, which guides you through powerful techniques to create that deep sense of self-acceptance and self-esteem.
- Read The Solution To Social Anxiety, which teaches you how to identify and own your strengths, and many other techniques to dramatically improve your self-esteem.
3. Practice Speaking Up
The biggest challenge to speaking up and sharing your ideas is the fear that stops you in the moment. It might feel like your mind goes blank, your chest gets tight, or you simply “freeze up.”
This can be a difficult pattern to break with our minds alone. The most effective way to shift this is to actually recondition your body and nervous system.
You must practice speaking loudly, with force and conviction. When you’re alone at home, or in your shower, or driving to work, practice speaking more loudly than usual. It doesn’t matter what you say, just practice speaking up with force behind your voice.
A good friend of mine is an amazing musician, singer, and vocal coach (http://JonathanBrinkley.com). I was doing some voice lessons with him recently to improve my singing ability and to refine my voice for recording audio programs. He had me doing strange exercises where you project your voice across the room and say, “Hark! Who goes there?”
Get in the habit of blurting things out more loudly than you normally would. As you practice this alone, you just might find that you are more able to speak up when it really counts.
4. Drop Comparisons
If there’s one thing that’ll kill your confidence and prevent you from sharing your ideas at work, it’s playing the comparison game.
Here’s how the game works:
You notice the impressive qualities of other people, compare yourself to them, and find yourself lacking.
Geez, he’s so articulate when he shares in the meeting, I could never do that.
The subtle implication is they’re somehow better than you are as a person.
Gaining the confidence you need to succeed at work depends on you being able to catch your mind when it’s playing the comparison game. Remind yourself you don’t want to play that game and it doesn’t serve you.
Who cares if he’s more articulate? Or knows more than you do? Or makes more money?
It in no way means he’s a better human being. Focus your attention back inwards onto your strengths, your uniqueness, and your value. Find what you have to offer and notice if you dismiss it in some way. Yeah, I’m intelligent and all, but I always stumble over my words when I’m nervous.
How inspired and bold does that make you feel?
Instead, how about this? Of course I have something to share. I’m intelligent, bright, and capable. Here’s how I know I’m intelligent… (insert evidence here).
The more you can identify and own your own strengths, the less you’ll feel inferior to others. You’ll realize you have something powerful, unique, and significant to offer – not only at work, but in every aspect of your life.
If you’re ready to take it to the next level, find your worth, and maximize your boldness, I strongly suggest getting Confidence Unleashed and going through that program. Using transformational techniques, it will take you from a place of fear and doubt to boldly being who you are at work (and in dating, relationships and all of life…)
If you’re ready to transform everything and rapidly break through the barriers that are holding you back, reach out to me about Confidence Coaching.
Your life will never be the same again!