Do you think it is possible to want something without feeling needy and impatient? How would you like to feel at ease in your confidence when it comes to waiting for an important response?
Recently, I had a client who was dealing with this very issue. After having a second interview for a very exciting job opportunity, he was waiting to hear back from the company . . . but rather than remaining confident in his prospects and patiently biding his time for a week or two, he was frantically checking his email every fifteen minutes and lamenting that it was hopeless after just a couple days.
Does this sound familiar?
We have all experienced some version of this at some point in our lives: we long for something desperately, and we can’t handle the idea of not being told immediately that it will be ours. So, how do we come to a place of patience and solidness in our own abilities?
Well, today, I am going to share three tips that will help you do just that.
Step one – Breathe
There is a time in every life when the only thing you can do is take a step back . . . and this is one of them. When something is forcing you into a place of desperation, the first thing you must do is to literally step back from it physically and take a deep breath. This will not only remove you from the stressor, but it will also help to disrupt the pattern of grasping and stress.
This step is especially important because it is impossible to inspire a shift in your mindset when your physiology is clenched and blocked off.
Step two – Consider the Truth
Once you’ve corrected the destructive pattern of physical behavior, it is time to do the same with your mental behavior and remind yourself of one important truth: you do not need this.
Now, there are tons of stories you’re probably telling yourself right now about why you do need this certain job or promotion or relationship. But the plain truth is that you don’t—you will not die if you don’t get it and your life happiness is not dependent upon it.
So often, we believe that a particular outcome will change everything in our lives . . . but that is not the case.
Think about it this way: how many times have you stressed about an outcome, gotten it, been happy momentarily, and then gone right back to grasping for the next thing? This is what we do to ourselves when we do not know how to create happiness from the inside-out.
True happiness can only come from letting go of outside forces and feeling completely settled in your own confidence.
When you feel like all is lost, you must remind yourself of this truth and understand that something even better is just around the corner.
Step three – Refocus Your Energy
Now that you have cleansed your body and mind, you will need to find something else to occupy your time. You can’t very well feel at peace if you immediately jump back on the computer and obsessively refresh your email browser. This is the time to work on a project, clean, or (most preferably) do something creative that inspires you.
Remember: you do not have any control over what the universe hands you—but you do have control over how you respond to it.
The more you can learn to let go and find a relaxed state of being, the more you will develop your ability to remain at peace and release that grasping desire that cripples your ability to create happiness in life. Ultimately, this will not only allow you to go after what you want in life with more energy and efficiency—it will also help you to find success and joy in achieving the outcomes that you want.
So, how have you been grasping at your desires in an ineffective way? How has this affected your energy and abilities to get what you want? How have the tactics above helped you to let go? Please share your experiences in the comments below! I love to hear from you, and I promise that I do read your responses and adjust my future videos based on your feedback and questions.
Until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you’re awesome.
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