Do you feel like you struggle to keep up from day to day? Do you often go through your day stressed out about what other problems might be right around the corner?
If you’re ready to let go of some of the fear in your life so that you can move to a greater place of power, boldness, and confidence, then this is the episode for you! Today we’re going to be discussing a simple technique you can use in your daily routine to help you shift your mindset and take life on in a whole new way.
Have you ever noticed that once one thing goes wrong in your day, it becomes easy to believe that everything else that comes up that day will go wrong, too?
Often in life, on days when we’re feeling a little less confident, we tend to adopt a quicksand mentality in which we assume everything around us is a threat.
We approach everything in life wondering what else could possibly go wrong; our bodies tense up with each new item on the agenda; we walk around looking for the next surprise, as if the boogey man will jump out at any moment.
This actually happened to me the other day (which was what inspired me to tackle this issue). The situation involved a difference of opinion between me and one of my team members, and I found that worrying about it was severely impeding my other responsibilities and activities throughout the day:
– How is this going to affect our work?
– Are there going to be other issues?
– Is this going to derail our entire relationship?
Once I realized how toxic this thought pattern had become, I stepped back and asked myself what I needed to do to change that mindset and allow it to become a positive force.
That was when it hit me. What if this issue wasn’t a threat—but an opportunity?
The moment I even asked the question, my body began to relax, and my thoughts slowed down to a pace I could manage. Feeling that small bit of relief let me know I was headed in the right direction.
So, I made the conscious choice to decide that it was, indeed, an opportunity.
Then I thought, “What if all of the threats in my life were opportunities?!”
I didn’t need immediate solutions. I didn’t need to figure everything out right in that moment. I didn’t even need to talk myself off the ledge. I simply removed the negative association and saw the chance for something good to arise, and I instantly felt better.
The beautiful thing about opportunity is that it is literally always present.
Maybe the situation you are facing isn’t an opportunity in the sense that it will bring you recognition or money . . . but it is certainly an opportunity in the sense that it may provide the chance to learn and grow; it may provide the chance to solve a problem; it may provide the chance to prove to yourself that you have the ability to overcome adversity.
There are endless opportunities available at every moment—it’s your choice to discover which opportunity you want to take advantage of at any given time.
In any case, as soon as you make the conscious choice to turn a threat into an opportunity, you take away its power to negatively affect your life. As one of my mentors, Tony Robbins, used to say, “What if life isn’t happening to you, but it’s happening for you?”
This is just another way to think of that—what if a problem isn’t a threat, but an opportunity?
If you want to dive more deeply into this and many other concepts, you should check out the Center for Social Confidence at SocialConfidenceCenter.com. There you can find countless podcasts and upcoming live events, including Confidence University (also available at TheConfidenceUniversity.com). This program has been over two years in the making, and is my most comprehensive, dynamic, engaging program yet, including step-by-step instruction, action steps, live calls and techniques for drastically improving your confidence in every single area of your life. It also provides plenty of guidance and support to help you navigate your confidence journey. When you visit these sites, you can also gain access to my free e-book, Five Steps to Unleash Your Inner Confidence.
In the meantime, please share your experiences with this work in the comments below! Have you ever experienced this quicksand mentality? What threats do you perceive, and how can you turn them into opportunities? How has this shift in your mindset affected your everyday energy and productivity?
My purpose in life is to spread this work to as many people as possible so that I can affect change for everyone who needs it. These episodes are designed to be an easy way for us to get plugged in and make massive progress for a very small investment of time and energy. So please, stay involved and spread the word about this amazing community to anyone who you think might need a serious boost in their confidence. The more we share, the more connected we will become, and the more we will continue to learn and grow.
Until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you’re awesome.
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