Have you ever experienced shy bladder? There you are in the bathroom about to do your business when some dude pulls up to the stall next to you, and poof: your ability to open the floodgates disappears.

If you have no idea what I’m talking about, then you can probably skip this video . . . but if you do, then you know what an extremely uncomfortable feeling (and situation) that can be. Fortunately, though, this issue is merely a matter of shyness, and today we’re going to discuss an ultra-powerful technique that will help you eliminate your bathroom bashfulness in no time.

Believe it or not, this is a challenge that many people struggle with, but one that almost no one talks about. It is embarrassing, after all. Plus, there’s not really a technical term for what we’re talking about here, so for the purposes of this episode, we’ll just let the term “shy bladder” encompass any situation in which one feels unable to release his or her bladder, particularly in a public restroom.

Typically, there are two ways to deal with this situation in the moment:

  1. You can either wait it out and deal with the discomfort that comes along with the “hold-up”
  2. You can pretend you’re already done, zip up, and leave only to end up holding it even longer. Excruciating.

Neither of these options is pleasant, but somehow they seem preferable to the alternative at the time . . . and why is that?

The answer is that this condition is merely a symptom of shyness—it’s a physical response to emotionally feeling judged.

So, how do we rid ourselves of that response? There’s a trick that’s always worked for me, and I like to call it the Eminem method.

Have you ever noticed that rappers tend to exude an energy of strength and indifference with them wherever they go? They don’t care what other people think—they are confident enough to say and do whatever they want, whenever they want. This was the inspiration behind some very successful attempts at breaking my own personal shy bladder barrier.

The first time I used the Eminem method I happened to be traveling: I was in an airport bathroom with my headphones on, and the only available urinal happened to be right between two occupied urinals. Since I happened to be listening to Eminem at the time, I thought I’d take the opportunity to use it to my advantage and adopt his “I don’t give a f—“ attitude. I stood tall and proud and said to myself, I pee wherever I want, whenever I want, in front of whoever I want.

I just kept repeating this phrase to myself over and over again as I strolled up to the open stall (I even threw a few motherf—ers in there every so often for good measure). Much to my surprise . . . it worked!

Sure I had moments of panic in which doubt about my ability to follow through seeped in, but I just kept pushing those doubts back with my newfound mantra:

I pee wherever I want, whenever I want, in front of whoever I want.

After that experience, I began using it whenever I’d even start to enter a public bathroom. It’s now become a habit:

I get my mental energy going and picture the badass rapper in my head unabashedly striding into the restroom and claiming his territory in the form of fearless communal urination!

I’m not going to lie to you: once in a while, you might still have to wait it out. If you stick with it, however, and make a pact with yourself that you’ll never just give up by pretending to be finished again, you will begin to feel a difference in the control you have and power you feel in these situations.

At that point, if you really want to start pushing the boundaries of your comfort zone and testing your fearlessness, you can begin purposefully choosing more “anxiety-inducing” urinals. Researchers have found that we all tend to choose the same stalls based on which is closer to the edge or farther from another person.

When we begin to get more brave with these situations, we can begin to choose the stalls in the center, thereby increasing the chance that someone will have to use the ones next to us. Eventually it will become such a nonissue for you that you will not even think about urinal choice and mantras.

How has this issue affected your life? What sort of results did you experience when you tried the Eminem method for yourself? What other tricks and tips do you have for your fellow shy bladder battlers? Share your thoughts and secrets so that we can help each other break through this simple problem and build our self-confidence in public. Please also feel free to “like” or subscribe below.

And, as always: until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you’re awesome. I’ll talk to you soon.

Dr. Aziz