How to Fearlessly Approach People, Start Conversations, Meet Women, and Make Sales

Do you hesitate? Are you tentative? Do you wait to get the lay of the land before taking action, maybe even waiting to see what other people do?

If so, you are limiting yourself and your confidence in more ways that you can imagine. Today, we’re going discuss how you can shift that mentality in order to break through the habits that are holding you back.

The first thing I want to talk about is giving yourself the permission to misfire. Here’s how it works: If you’ve seen my previous episodes, you know you get confidence by doing the things that are outside your comfort zone. Many times, however, we keep ourselves from taking that first step because we’re afraid of making a mistake or doing it wrong.

Let’s say you want to talk to someone you think is attractive. The first thing you might do is worry that something will go wrong: What if I look nervous? What if I don’t know what to say? What if she doesn’t want to talk to me?

When we focus all of our energy on not making a mistake, we end up doing nothing.

This takes your confidence nowhere. But what if you gave yourself permission to misfire—permission to make a mistake?

Now, you decide that no matter what happens, you’re going to go for it. Failure is fine, and you’re not going to let it upset you. You approach that same attractive person and maybe he or she isn’t interested. You’ve already given yourself permission to strike out, so it’s not that heartbreaking after all.

Whatever you might be working on, whatever you’re afraid might happen, just let yourself know in advance that it’s okay if it doesn’t work out perfectly. It’s even okay if you fail miserably. That’s how you’re going to get over your “mistakes.” Give yourself permission to misfire.

You have interactions to burn when it comes to meeting people and having social interactions. If one doesn’t go well, who cares? Misfire, and move on. Maybe you go for it, and the results are a bit messy. You’ll just course-correct! You course correct, and try again from a new angle. The more you take action, the more you learn, the more you grow, and the faster you build your confidence.

Start this week! Give yourself permission to misfire and let us know how it goes—most of the time, your misfires ending up becoming great stories that you can laugh at a few days later. If you want to learn some more detailed tips about approaching relationships, then try my program, 30 Days to Dating Mastery. In it, we discuss overcoming the fear of rejection, and I also share some great stories about my own misfires when talking to women.

You have no idea how freeing it is to discover that your mistakes are not as terrifying as you think they’ll be.

Remember: It is okay to not be perfect.

Feel free to “like,” subscribe, and leave your comments below. Tell us about the times when you gave yourself permission to misfire. I love that feedback and that’s why I share those stories myself. In the meantime, check out my other episodes to keep watching, learning, and growing your confidence.

Until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know that you’re awesome.

Dr. Aziz