FIND YOUR PLAYFUL SIDE AND REALIZE YOUR FULL FUNNYMAN POTENTIAL.
Do you wish you were funnier? Do you wish you knew how to bring playfulness and humor to all your interactions? Do you want to have more fun while also learning to attract people to you by becoming more entertaining, engaging, and confident in every area of your life?
If you answered “Yes” to any of these question, then stick around, because today we’re going to be discussing simple tips for increasing your sense of humor that you can use every day.
First and foremost, when learning to become more playful, we need to get into a playful state. Since we naturally enter this state in our everyday lives all the time, this process involves a bit of self-study. What does a state of playfulness look like for you? When you’re in a playful state, what are the circumstances? What situations allow you to let your guard down and become more relaxed and fun?
Many people create a story in their minds that tells them that they’re not funny and never will be. The truth, however, is that everyone has the ability to express themselves in countless ways, and one of them is through humor.
When we allow our doubts in ourselves to define our identities and keep us from seeing our potential, it’s almost always because we’re afraid to take risks.
In the case of denying your own sense of humor, you’re simply afraid to risk making a joke that isn’t funny—you’re afraid that your humor will be rejected.
Not only do we need to study ourselves in a state of playfulness to find out what it is that allows us to relax into that open presence, but we also need to be willing to take a risk and fall flat on our faces—we need to risk that playful state in settings where we normally wouldn’t
It’s a common belief that certain situations require an all-business attitude. We think that it’s ok to let loose in front of our friends, for example, but we need to keep a tight lid on our personalities in front of our bosses at work.
The fact is that humor can be an effective way to draw people toward you in almost any situation.
You already know how to do this, but you think you’re not supposed to, so you clam up and assume an attitude of seriousness, no matter what.
Consider this: even if someone does recoil at your innocent attempt to invite playfulness into an encounter, who says that you’re the one in the wrong?
Lots of people go through life allowing others to make them feel bad for their actions, but there is truly nothing wrong with being playful. Maybe, instead of feeling guilty for trying to lighten the mood, we ought to be asking what could be causing the other person to need to act so serious.
Life is tough enough without going through it under a dark cloud. In my reality, it’s good to make light-hearted jokes; it’s good to be playful more of the time than not; and it’s good to make people smile and laugh whenever possible.
This was also how I approached my work with clients from the moment I started working with people on confidence and social anxiety.
In a given session, no matter what the topic, my client and I will laugh together at least once, and I believe that that element of humor is essential to this type of work.
Sure, these sessions can get intense (and there is definitely an element of tactfulness that needs to be employed when dealing with sensitive issues). But the opportunity to lighten the energy once we’ve worked through a serious moment is a great relief to everyone involved, both physically and emotionally.
So, ultimately, the real question here is, “How is it done?” How do we become funnier?
The first step is realizing that it has nothing to do with skill. Yes, certain people are born with a natural wit, but that doesn’t mean that humor is exclusively reserved for the genetically inclined. In reality, it’s just about courage: having the guts to put yourself out there and accept what comes back.
If you want to build up your comedic ability, there are plenty of outlets for increasing your sense of humor: studying stand-up comedians, watching sitcoms and other comedic material, and simply observing the mannerisms of naturally funny people.
You can also use the tactic of misinterpreting a situation on purpose. For example, let’s say someone comments that they got into an argument recently: you might say something like, “Oh, yeah? Prison yard rules or more of a UFC cage fight scenario?”
No, it’s not Chris Rock worthy, but absurdism and hyperbole are a great way to inject a zany interpretation into the mix and invite a few chuckles into the conversation.
Another fun option you can try is to make yourself the subject of the humor by pointing out absurd moments in your own life (i.e.: self-deprecation light). The first example that comes to my mind is a situation that I describe in one of my books where I was given a fake Rolex as a kid and thought I was a total badass who was ready to go brag to all of my friends—little did I know, however, that it would fall apart like the POS it was before I even got home.
There are about a hundred unique ways to increase the amount of humor you enjoy during your day, but ultimately, it’s about finding what works for you and gaining the courage necessary to let that side of you out!
If you love characters and silly voices, let those out once in a while! If you love dry humor, bring that into your everyday conversations in a light-hearted way. Obviously, your goal should never be to intentionally embarrass or hurt anyone else (nobody finds that funny), but if someone has a problem with your humor, that’s their problem. The more you take a chance and work to invite humor into your everyday interactions, the better you will become at it and the more you will begin to naturally identify yourself as a funny person who is enjoyable to be around! Before long, other people will begin to see you this way as well.
As always, I invite you to “like,” subscribe, and share your thoughts in the comments section below. What has helped you become funnier? What successes and challenges have you faced with this work? What helps you find a more playful state of mind? Keep sharing your experiences with one another so that we can stay connected as a community and learn from one another even faster!
Until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you’re awesome.
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