Would you like to create friendships that are deep, trusting, and enjoyable? Would you like to be comfortable enough with someone to tell your most personal stories, share rich experiences, go on adventures, and create lasting memories?
When it comes to the world of confidence development and social fitness, one of the most common struggles is bonding.
Connecting and creating new friendships with others can be intimidating and scary. Many of us have negative stories associated with this topic. We assume we know what’s possible and not possible for us in the realm of friendships, and we settle for surface-level companionship when what we really want is a deep bond.
In many cases, we run into roadblocks creating these bonds because we haven’t developed the social mastery skills necessary to excel . . . and one of these skills is conversation confidence.
Now, if this is an area in which you feel like you need more support and guidance than you can receive from a video or blog post, then you should definitely look into my new and upcoming event, Supremely Confident Conversation Master! This is going to be a three-day event, running April 17th – 19th, that will provide you with the insight, growth, and action you will need to bust through your roadblocks and finally start to see a massive surge in your conversation confidence.
I’ve been doing these live events for several years now, and I can safely say that there is no limit to the amount of energy and inspiration that they can provide—it will truly blow you away.
So, if you want to light a fire within you and see your conversation confidence soar, check out the information and purchase tickets by clicking on the link below!
In the meantime, though, let’s discuss one major route to conversation mastery that will allow you to start developing your skills, starting right now!
The unique brand of conversation confidence that you seek is about more than just being able to talk to strangers in a short-term interaction—it’s about believing you are worthy of connection with another human being.
In order to connect deeply with someone, you need to actually believe that you are an amazing person who deserves the love of another.
Far too often, we hold back from going all in with someone else because we see how amazing they are and think that we don’t stack up:
- She’s so inspiring—I could never do what she does!
- He really stands for excellence in all things—what if I don’t measure up?
- They’re such a tightknit group—what if I don’t fit in? Will they ever accept me?
It’s a tough cycle to break yourself out of: the people who you want to make the deepest connections with are the truly amazing people who take your breath away . . . and those are the people who can be the most intimidating.
The fact of the matter, however, is that they are only truly amazing because they understand their own worth and do not apologize for their self-confidence.
So, the first thing you have to do when developing your conversation confidence is to address your core sense of worth—you have to learn to understand that anyone would be lucky to be your friend.
Take a moment right now and consider your own worth: Can you think of three reasons right now why someone would be lucky to have you as a friend? Really take this moment to consider that question—stop reading, come up with answers, and jot them down.
Now, there’s another factor that’s just as important as realizing your worth: knowing the kind of people you want to be friends with.
Many people allow friendships to form based on impersonal circumstances, such as proximity: “Well, we work together, so we may as well be friends.” That’s no way to make a lasting friendship work.
Sure, it’s possible to get close to someone in that way, but in most cases, we end up making exceptions for behavior we don’t like, or we suffer through the company of people who annoy us just because we have no one else in our lives. We get used to having them around, and then we even miss them when they’re gone.
We can do better than that . . . and we deserve better, anyway!
So, think about it: what qualities do we really want in a true friend? Set an intention and get clarity on this issue. What matters most to you in your relationships? Laughter? Intimacy? Fun? Emotional release? Shared experience?
Maybe there are personal qualities that your ideal friend should have: positivity, open-mindedness, religious beliefs, or an adventurous spirit.
There is no wrong answer.
Finally, there is just one more step on this particular road toward creating better friendships, and that is to fully embody the qualities you seek in others.
If you really want to attract high-quality friendships, then high-quality characteristics are what you’ll have to exude.
In order to connect with others, you can’t just passively sit there wishing for it to happen—you have to actively create the space for that kind of interaction. You have to become a leader; you have to act as an example; you have to approach people, interact with them, and display the kind of behavior you seek.
Again, if this seems like too much too fast, please check out the link for Supremely Confident Conversation Master. From the first activity on day one, we break down the art of socializing, beginning with how to instantly start conversations with anyone. Through this event, you will eliminate your insecurity in this area of your life, and the progression toward that growth will be easier and more rapid than you can imagine!
Once you develop that confidence and you’re emitting high-quality characteristics on a higher
frequency, you’ll find that you can naturally make jokes, take risks, reveal a deeper version of yourself, and attract the kind of
people who will become lifelong friends.
But it all starts with your commitment to bold action. You’ve got to be willing to put yourself out there and accept that your risks may not result in rewards every single time.
Don’t be afraid to let people know you’ve had a great time talking to them! Offer your sincere appreciation of them, follow up with them, and invite them to hang out again. Some will say “Yes,” and some will say, “No.” Some may agree with you but be too busy. Some will jump at the chance to spend more time with you, and some will not . . . and that’s okay! Just keep engaging with people in an intriguing way that benefits them, and they will be drawn to you.
Own your value; get clear on what you want; exude the behavior you want to see in others. It IS possible to create the friendships you deserve. You just have to be willing to go out and get them!
Please check out the information for Supremely Confident Conversation Master by clicking the link below. You can also share your thoughts and questions in the comments section. What part of this process seems the most challenging to you? What qualities are you seeking in an ideal friend? I love learning to tailor these videos to your specific needs while also seeing you all interacting in a supportive way.
Until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you’re awesome.
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