Do you hate your job? Do you wish you could quit, but lack the confidence to do so?
Recently, I received a question concerning this very issue from Costas Sveekis during a Q&A session. Though he hates his job and knows he could knock his dream job out of the park, he has many of the same doubts that anyone would have concerning money and his age.
So, how do we overcome that fear so that we can pursue our dream job and open ourselves up to the possibility of ultimate success? That’s what we’ll be discussing today.
To begin with, how do we overcome any fear? We do it.
If you’ve ever worked with me before, you know that there is no magic bullet to completely eradicate fear before taking action.
Yes, there may be personal development techniques to help diminish your fear and help you deal with it effectively, but eventually, you’re going to have to just take the leap and see what happens.
Now, if you do want to prepare yourself a little beforehand, here are a few of those simple personal development tricks you can try:
Visualization: Get very specific about exactly what you want and visualize it happening in great detail.
In the case of Costas’s job, he would list exactly what he wants to do with his life (the exact job, how much he’d make, who he’d work with, etc.), and then picture it happening while allowing himself to experience the emotions that come along with that success. Not only would this fuel his emotional and physical energy, but it would also give him the incentive necessary to take that bold action, even in the face of his fear.
Meditation: Surrender to the fear and come to peace with it.
In Costas’s case, he might start by engaging in the exercise above . . . but if fear arose, he would simply sit in mindful acceptance of it and wait for it to pass patiently. The idea here is that you do not try to control your discomfort—through this process, you are simply letting yourself know that you can handle it.
You can’t learn to fight for something better until you let go of the thing that’s making you miserable.
This is also something I would also recommend for anyone who is stuck in an unhealthy relationship. Many people just fester in unwanted relationships because they don’t want to face the breakup, but if we can face that discomfort and guilt ahead of time, we significantly increase the chances that we will actually follow through with it.
No matter how much confidence you’ve built up, doubt almost always creeps back in at some point—you must learn to accept the pain that comes with it before taking action if you hope to have any success.
This is the risk we must take to become happy, well-adjusted human beings.
Taking bold action isn’t about being certain that everything is going to go the way you want—it’s about being certain that you want to live your life differently:
– “I may not know what’s going to happen, but I know that I am not going to be the sort of person who settles into a job I hate for the rest of my life. I am going to go after what I really want in life, and no matter what happens, I will keep trying and trying until I reach my goal.”
For most successful people, it’s not about being lucky—it’s about being unstoppable.
This is precisely why the name of my mastermind program is called The Unstoppable Confidence Mastermind—because success has nothing to do with hitting every single target or getting it right 100% of the time. If you want to make your dreams come true, it’s going to take hard work and determination, and you’re going to have to go after it again and again and again.
Like it or not, you’re going to face disappointment at some point or another. That’s just reality. There’s even a chance that your struggle might take you on a completely different path than you intended—and that’s fine! Your only job in developing unstoppable confidence is to keep taking bold action toward your goal every single day.
Take the risk, and you won’t regret it. What you will regret is being 70 years old and never having taken a chance on yourself.
You cannot live your life in fear . . . and there is no reason to, anyway. Life has more in store for you than that. If you never take the leap, however, you will never discover what that “more” is. You have the power to handle whatever obstacles come your way, so act now, and make radical transformations a possibility!
If you’re looking for a more comprehensive overview of these techniques (and much more), my program, Confidence University, contains an entire course regarding your career and the choices surrounding it: job selection, changing careers, accelerating your progress, developing your leadership skills, getting promoted, and generally living your professional life on your own terms. If that sounds ideal to you, check it out at TheConfidenceUniversity.com.
I hope this Q&A has served you well (Costas and anyone else interested in this topic). As always, I invite you to “like,” subscribe, and share your experiences with this work in the comments below.
Until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you’re awesome.
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