<iframe width=”560″ height=”315″ src=”https://www.youtube.com/embed/5oR9Q4JK4us<p class=”p1″>?autoplay=1</p>” frameborder=”0″ allowfullscreen></iframe><br /><h1><span>How To Feel Powerful And Confident In You Are Right Now<br /></span></h1><p>Do you sometimes struggle with a feeling of inferiority? Do you believe that you deserve less than others? Do you find that you compare yourself to other people often?</p><p>We all experience the feeling of not being good enough at some point in our lives, but if you’re feeling it on a daily basis, it can be really painful. Today, we’re going to discuss a powerful way to free yourself from that feeling and begin to develop relaxed, rock-solid confidence.</p><p>As human beings, we walk around feeling like we’re somehow unworthy far too often. What’s worse is that we develop patterns that encourage this reduced sense of self-worth, such as self-criticism and comparison:</p><p> <em>I’m not smart enough to talk to these people.</em></p><p><em> I’m not good-looking enough to hit on that girl.</em></p><p><em> He’s way better at schmoozing the VIPs than I am.</em></p><p><em> She’s so much more confident in social situations than I could ever be.</em></p><p>While this is, of course, detrimental to our mental well-being, it can also lead to sense of shame and guilt.</p><p>The bad news is that this short video is not going to completely heal this issue for you forever—there’s no one alive who’s been completely healed of this forever and no method or practice that could make it possible. We can, however, get a hell of a lot better with our patterns of behavior when it comes to our treatment of ourselves.</p><p style=”text-align: center;”>It all starts with a simple decision: <em>I’m not going to keep</em> <em>mindlessly reaffirming the negative feelings I have about myself. I’m going to plant my stakes in the ground and believe that I am enough. I am good enough.</em></p><p>This goes past generalization—you must commit to specific intentions. You must tell yourself that you are enough <em>in that moment</em>; that you don’t need to do or achieve more; that you don’t need more recognition or approval; that you don’t need dates lined up at your door; that you don’t need to be making more money or have a better job; that you don’t need all of these things to qualify as worthy.</p><p>You are not defined by your supposed shortcomings. They are not your absolute truth, and they do not encapsulate you. Allowing yourself to be held captive by them is just habit—it’s a pattern. It’s a reflex that you can change.</p><p>How do we do that? We create <em>new</em> habits.</p><p><span>When we start a new practice, the muscle is weak. You have to build it up with effort if you ever hope to overcome the overdeveloped muscle of self-criticism. </span>The best way to claim your self-worth is to remind yourself to practice it in the morning, when you have the opportunity to intentionally shape your mental state for the rest of the day: as soon as you rise, tell yourself that you are enough; that it doesn’t matter what you do or achieve—you are enough on your own.</p><p>At the end of the day, we face another opportunity to enforce this new frame of mind by looking back at what happened that day with compassion and kindness and letting yourself know that it was <em>enough</em>.</p><p>We have got to fight for the reality of what it means to be a human—not some ideal standard of perfection, always ending up on top like some superhuman ideal . . . because it doesn’t exist. Even if we’d love to believe that there are people out there for whom it <em>all</em> works out <em>all</em> of the time, it is a fallacy. <em>No one</em> lives a life like that.</p><p>No one experiences 100% confidence every second of every day. You know the people to whom you spend all day comparing yourself? They experience self-doubt, fear and insecurity. We all do.</p><p>These feelings are a part of the human condition, and you must claim your right to be human. Plant your stakes in the ground and say, “Today, I am enough. This is enough.”</p><p>Give yourself that relief. It is the only way to create a mental state that will foster rock-solid, relaxed, palpable confidence that people will be able to feel emanating from within you. You will feel more relaxed, and you will relax the people around you because they will naturally feel as though <em>they</em> are enough. You will become a magnet for positive vibes.</p><p>If you would like to go even further with this practice, check out my program, <em>The Confidence Code </em>(YourConfidenceCode.com), which covers many personal exercises and techniques meant to increase confidence and help you go after the things you want in life.</p><p>You can’t attack those challenges, however, until you’ve made at least a small amount of progress in this area. So start making this a daily practice in your life, and watch your confidence begin to soar!</p><p>You can also check out other episodes of this show, “like,” and subscribe via the available links. I’d also love for you to share your experiences with this new practice in the comments below. What have you learned? What has been the most valuable aspect to you? We can inspire and support each other by forming a strong community, so please stay connected and keep the lines of communication open.</p><p>Until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you’re awesome . . . and that you’re enough, that I value you, and that you can value and <em>love</em> yourself.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><h1><span> </span></h1>
Dr. Aziz is the world’s leading confidence expert. He helps people break free from hesitation, fear, and self-doubt so they can rapidly grow their businesses, become more powerful leaders, and enjoy outstanding relationships.