HAVE THE CONVERSATION YOU’VE BEEN AVOIDING AND LET GO OF THAT DAILY FRUSTRATION STARTING TODAY.
Are you tired of feeling anxious, unsettled, afraid, and weak? Would you like to feel more powerful, confident, assertive, and sure of yourself and your actions every single day? If so, then stick around! Because today, we’re going to be discussing a very specific and potent technique that will allow you to achieve all of that and more.
When we go through life feeling like the universe could deal you a bum hand at any moment, it forces us into a state of anxiety, fear, and general weakness.
But what if we could turn it all around and push through that feeling? What if I told you there was a surefire way to feel more solid in yourself and sure of your place in the world? Would you like to know what it is?
It’s to have the conversation that you’ve been avoiding.
What does that mean? It simply means that you need to face your fear and confront the issue or person or situation that you’ve been allowing to hold you back.
Now, why don’t I just say, “confront the issue”? Because even the mention of the word “confront” stirs up major anxiety for some people. After all, it does carry aggressive connotations. But confrontation doesn’t have to be scary! Just because you’re confronting something or someone doesn’t mean you have to go after that person or thing with a baseball bat.
Without the negative associations we attach to it, confrontation is merely approaching something with honesty and directness.
So, what is that issue or person or situation—what is that conversation—for you?
Perhaps the issue you need to confront is with a friend or lover or coworker or even with yourself! Perhaps it’s just a fear you need to face or a challenge you’ve been avoiding.
For me, the best recent example I can think of is a conversation I needed to have with my wife: in our partnership, we’ve done a pretty good job of compartmentalizing our responsibilities to make sure that everything runs smoothly in our home and with our boys. Recently, however, we both noticed that there was some confusion about certain aspects of that arrangement that weren’t clear to us, and it was causing major frustrations on both our parts. Hence, there needed to be a confrontation (a direct conversation) to figure it out so that we could both let go of that frustration and maintain a positive energy in our home.
Now, some of you might think that this sounds a little tame for “confrontation status,” but it was a delicate situation that involved a lot of personal feelings and that needed to be addressed in order to avoid resentment and additional tension.
Just because the conversation is between two people who love and respect each other, that doesn’t mean that it’s going to be easy.
In the end, the conversation was uncomfortable and required that we both get very honest about some uncomfortable feelings . . . but it was also amazing to work through that together and come to a place where we didn’t harbor any negative emotions about the situation.
That is the important thing to remember: no matter how awkward or scary this confrontation might seem to you, there is always going to be a light at the end of the tunnel!
If there are two things that you should take away from this discussion, they are these: 1) upset is temporary; and 2) avoidance is not helping you.
Though confrontation can often force us to focus on the discomfort or fear we’re going to feel, we must instead choose to focus on the better outcome that is awaiting on the other side. Once you’ve cleared the air and dealt with whatever issue you need to face, you’re going to enjoy deeper connections, friendships, working relationships, and intimacy than ever before.
Additionally, the impulse that’s keeping you from confronting these issues (preserving your own comfort) isn’t as effective as you might think. While you might think that avoidance is keeping you safe, it’s really only providing temporary relief in that moment. When you look at the big picture, however, you’re still dealing with the discomfort and frustration that the issue is causing you every single day. The math doesn’t work out.
If you really want to ease that discomfort permanently, you need to confront the issue and deal with the situation directly—to have the conversation you’ve been avoiding!
Now, remember: in this endeavor, you don’t have to know all the aspects of the conversation before you begin. In fact, over-preparing for a confrontation is often a sign that you’re unwilling to face that fear—instead of just jumping in feet-first, you’re trying to smooth it all out and make it safe before proceeding.
Of course, a little bit of forethought is a good idea, but at a certain point, you have to just take the leap, or you’ll never get it done.
So, what’s the conversation that you’ve been avoiding? You’ve had plenty of time to consider it by now, so what’s holding you back? Let’s make the decision to permanently remove at least one issue from our lives that’s causing frustration and confusion so that we can move forward and live life with more happiness and overall confidence!
Please take a moment and leave your experiences with confrontation in the comments below! What is the conversation that you’ve been avoiding? How has confronting that situation improved your life? Go face your fear of confrontation and let us know how it goes! The more support we see, the more we learn, and the faster we can all grow. As always, I also invite you to subscribe and “like” this page so that you can receive new content as it’s posted.
Until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you’re awesome.
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