Are you holding onto something that isn’t serving you? Have you been trying to move forward for years only to remain stuck in the same place and tied to your old habits?
If you know that something great is waiting just around the corner for you, but you can’t seem to cut the cord that’s tying you to stagnation and disappointment, then you’ve come to the right place. Today, we’re going to be discussing how to break that bind and move toward a life that serves you.
To begin with, I’d like for you to picture a garden with two bushes about ten feet apart from one another. You’re standing at one of the bushes, and the other bush sits out of reach from where you currently stand. In between you and the second bush is just dead space—nothing to grab onto and keep you feeling safe and secure.
In many ways, this is a metaphor for drastic change and letting go.
When we have trouble letting go of the status quo, it is usually because we fear the empty space between the bushes.
What I mean by that is this: the first bush is the way things currently are—the job, relationship, or situation that simply is not working for you anymore. You don’t want to be at that bush anymore, and you see a better bush in the distance . . . but, try as you might, you can’t reach it without letting go of the old bush.
In short: you have to let go of what’s good in order to go to what’s great.
The problem is that most people don’t want to let go of where they are. In fact, most people will hang on doggedly to situations that aren’t working for them because they can’t reach anything else without a struggle.
Let’s face it: it’s scary to let go without having something else solid to hold onto. Picture the bushes again. When you let go of the first bush, you’ll have to carry on, bush-less, for ten whole feet before you have anything else to grab onto!
When we let go of our old ways, we have to deal with uncertainty and accept the unknown.
As you float in the ether, you might have to deal with having no partner or no living space or even no income for the first time in your life. You will be in a space in which you don’t have it all figured out, and maybe even have no plan. But you must face the fear of that uncertainty if you are ever to reach a new place of contentment and achievement.
So, ask yourself right now: what in your life are you clinging to? Is there anything that you’re holding onto and secretly wishing it will just magically get better? Take this moment to make the conscious decision to let go of it and take action toward a new path.
This is not just passive entertainment—it’s a chance to engage in transformational thinking. It’s a new thought process that is meant to inspire bold action . . . and you need to start taking this action now.
If you care to find some additional support in this bold action, please visit my website, SocialConfidenceCenter.com, where you can access my free eBook, 5 Steps to Unleash Your Inner Confidence. These five steps will help you to develop the confidence necessary to master necessary social skills so that you can make the kind of change that we’re talking about.
In the meantime, please share your thoughts and experiences below. What actions are you taking to let go of your old habits or tie-ups? What challenges are you facing? Please allow us all to learn from your wisdom and advancements.
Until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you’re awesome.
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