Eliminate Your Fear Of Rejection And Skyrocket Your Confidence Now
Do you feel nervous before asking a woman for her phone number? Do you feel hesitant when it comes to business negotiations? Maybe you even feel discouraged when it comes to seeking friendship.
Today, we’re going to help you radically shift your mindset so that you can feel relaxed and excited when asking for something, whether it’s a date, a deal, or a drink with friends. We’ll also discuss exactly how to handle a rejection and move on to the next pursuit without all the usual grief, fear and turmoil.
Everyone experiences at least a small amount of trepidation when it comes to asking for something we’re not sure we’re going to get. No one, after all, enjoys rejection or the feelings that come with it . . . and that’s what it comes down to: we don’t to hear the word “no” because it’s embarrassing and disappointing, and it makes us feel inadequate.
When we’re focused on rejection from the start, we either approach the situation with hesitancy or not at all. Now, obviously, if you don’t approach what you’re going for at all, you’re never going to get it . . . but what about if you approach it with hesitancy?
Do you think a lack of confidence is going to make the person you’re approaching want to accommodate you more or less? When we’re not confident about our right to ask for something, we’re basically asking the other person to refuse us—we’re telling them that even we don’t think we deserve it.
Here’s the thing: confidence is an inside job. It comes from your mindset, your habits, and your emotional habits. These are all things that you set into motion internally, but once they are internalized, they manifest themselves in the outside world as well.
Imagine you have two tickets to the Super Bowl right on the fifty-yard-line, and you need to find someone to go with you. Would you feel timid about asking someone to join you in the best seats in the stadium for the biggest game of the year for free? Probably not, because it’s an opportunity that anyone would love to take advantage of—even someone who isn’t into football.
Really imagine yourself in this situation. Would you be excited about asking someone to join you at that event or would you be apologetic, as though they were likely to say “no”? You’d be super enthusiastic about it because—like any reasonable person—you would be very sure their answer would be “Hell yes.”
Now, imagine if, in that same situation, the person you asked did say “no” for whatever reason. You’re holding two incredible tickets worth thousands of dollars for an event that millions of people tune into every year, and that person can’t be bothered. You’d probably be a little surprised. To be honest, you’d probably rethink your initial impression of that person altogether.
This is exactly how you should approach people with the opportunity to interact with you . . . as though your request is something anyone would be crazy to turn down: “This has been really fun! We should get together again soon. I’d love to take you to dinner.”
And if the person turns you down, you treat it just like you would someone turning down free tickets to the Super Bowl: “No? That’s surprising; we’d have a great time. Okay, I’ll just ask someone else to go with me.”
This mindset is applicable to all kinds of requests, whether it’s a request to hang out or buy a product or receive a discount. You need to start thinking about yourself as being as cool as the Super Bowl. Start by asking yourself this question:
How would I act if I knew that hanging out with me was like going to the Super Bowl?
You might just find that your energy and the way you handle responses totally shifts. In time, you will be able to accept a “no” and move to the next person with just as much energy, enthusiasm and confidence as possible.
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Until we speak again, may have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you’re awesome. I’ll talk to you soon.
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