Right about now, I’d be willing to bet that you’re not feeling particularly unstoppable. None of us are absolutely sure what the immediate future holds right now, and most of us have been confined to our homes for at least a week or two. In fact, you might even be feeling a bit nervous or anxious.
So, under those conditions, how can you be expected to foster unstoppable confidence?
Here’s a little-known truth for you: it IS actually possible to be anxious and unstoppable at the same time!
Confidence is a subject I’ve been obsessed with for years—how to become more confident; how to maintain confidence in the face of social anxiety; and especially how to help others reach their ultimate confidence.
At first, I was only interested in boosting my confidence to be better at dating—very rapidly, however, I became fixated with developing confidence in order to socialize more easily, talk in front of groups, and successfully run a business. Eventually, I wanted to discover not only how to develop the absolute highest level of confidence in any situation, but also how to maintain that confidence no matter what.
This is a status I like to call “unstoppable confidence.”
In its most basic form, I like to define unstoppable confidence as confidence that never quits.
Often, the greatest obstacle to reaching our goals and becoming who we want to be in life is the fact that it’s so easy to give up.
Nothing worth having in life ever comes without a bit of hard work, and most people will come up with every excuse under the sun to avoid it:
- I want to earn more money, but the circumstances aren’t right for me to look for a better job at the moment;
- I want to foster better relationships with my family members, but
- we’re always so busy;
- I want to make an impact on the world, but I’m just a nobody—I could never make a difference.
We’re too scared to break out of our comfort zones, but deep down, we’ll never be satisfied because we know that all of those stories we’ve created to keep us safe are baloney.
When your subconscious knows that you are the only thing holding yourself back from everything you desire, you will never be truly satisfied.
In order to create unstoppable confidence, you must refuse to give up. No matter what you face—rejection, job loss, embarrassment—you must keep taking bold action to complete your goal.
Now, amidst what is currently happening with Coronavirus around the world, we’re all facing our own fears and concerns—both the short-term fear surrounding the virus itself, and the long-term fear of how our lives might change because of it.
Indeed, there is so much uncertainty surrounding the current crisis, that we only deepen our fears the more we think about it.
So, what can we do to develop our unstoppable confidence at a time like this?
Well, to begin with, we can adopt the identity of someone who believes he or she is bold, determined, relentless, and unstoppable.
Say it with me right now: “I am bold; I am determined; I am relentless; I am unstoppable.”
Humor me for a moment, and really get involved! If you’re somewhere in public, listening on headphones, then at least commit to this mantra resolutely in your mind: I am bold; I am determined; I am relentless; I am unstoppable.
Now, how are you feeling? Have you experienced any sort of shift in your physicality? Are you a little more relaxed? What if you repeated it twenty times and committed to what you were saying more and more with each repetition?
This exercise alone will begin to work you into a more powerful and settled place in both your mind and body.
Once you’ve begun to experience that feeling, you’ll want to be able to recall it more quickly during various situations. A great technique for moments like this is to imagine water as it flows down a powerful river.
Unstoppable confidence doesn’t have to come crashing out of you like the Hulk through drywall—often, it’s more like water.
Water is graceful, yet powerful, and when it meets and obstacle, it adjusts its course to flow around or over it. In time, it can even wear through stone.
So, what is the greatest obstacle you’re facing right now? How can you adopt the qualities of water to move relentlessly around, over, and through your problems?
The best thing about using unstoppable confidence as your guide is that it does not depend on anything else, and it doesn’t care what stands in its way. It comes from inside you, and it can be used in any situation.
A lot of this is intrinsically linked to discipline. For example, have you ever gone through with a
workout, even when you thought you were too tired? In that moment, you were unstoppable.
That is exactly the energy you need to take into whatever challenge you’re facing right now.
Maybe you’re terrified that you’re going to get laid off; maybe you’re anxious about your small business being able to survive the economic crisis; maybe you’re even afraid of the virus itself. You can be terrified, anxious, afraid, and several other things . . . and still be unstoppable.
Unstoppable confidence isn’t about eliminating all negative emotions—it’s about knowing that those emotions are only based in a fear of discomfort . . . and it’s about believing you can make it through that discomfort no matter what.
Whenever we experience fear, it’s because of some unknown: What will happen? How bad will it be? Will it hurt? Will I die?
Not knowing is terribly discomforting—and NONE of us like to be pushed out of our comfort zones.
The fact, however, is that this pandemic is probably going to change a lot of things for a lot of us. In order to work through it, we’re going to have to ride to the very edge of our comfort (and even push past it). We’re going to have to get creative, try new things, innovate, and overrun the obstacles in our path one at a time.
In times of crisis, confidence is tested, and leaders emerge.
You have the ability to accept and create change; you have the power to stand up to the challenges that come your way; you have the intelligence necessary to solve the problems in front of you.
It is inevitable that water will find its way into the places it wants to go—it just takes time. You will flow like water through this situation and rise like a tidal wave, more powerfully than ever. Just take the time to internalize this mindset of being absolutely unstoppable, and you will uncover the strength you need.
I am bold; I am determined; I am relentless I am unstoppable.
You are a force to be reckoned with—you just have to believe it.
As always, I invite you to leave your questions and thoughts in the comments below. If you truly believed you were unstoppable, what would you do differently, starting today? How would you
interact differently with people? What would you share and create? Now, don’t be afraid to show that version of yourself to the world! This is a time when we all need inspiration . . . so be the person who inspires and pushes others to be their best. It might even make your life a little better!
Until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you unstoppable and awesome.