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“Be Yourself” Is Terrible Advice
Right before a date, an interview, or a family gathering, someone tells you to just be yourself. Has that ever actually helped? For most of the people Dr. Aziz works with, it's done the opposite.
In this episode, Dr....
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You're Allowed To Push Back
"In those situations, it's not being defensive. It's defending myself. And those are two very different things. And one is actually extremely necessary and healthy."
Someone says something to you that's out of line....
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Why Saying No Feels So Bad
Someone asks you for something. The word no forms in your head. What comes out of your mouth is yes.
In this episode, Dr. Aziz breaks down why just say no more never quite works. There's a specific pattern running...
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Why You Feel You Have To Earn People's Approval
There's a pressure that follows you into every social situation. A running commentary that says whatever you're doing is wrong. You walk into the meeting, the party, the date, and the inner observer is already...
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You’re Successful and Exhausted
You're successful by every external measure. Some part of you is tracking, in real time, how you're coming across. Confident enough. Smart enough. Polished enough. The hyper-observation never quite turns off. Not in...
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You Look Confident But You Don’t Feel It
You're more accomplished than you used to be. The doubt didn't go away. Three a.m. replays. Did I say the right thing. Why did I do that. Should have handled that differently. The voice doesn't care how much you've...
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The Real Reason You Don't Speak Up
There's a conversation you know you need to have. You've thought about it. You've maybe rehearsed it. The moment comes, and you don't say anything. The moment passes. It feels, for a second, like you dodged something...
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Why You Still Care What People Think
Your boss doesn't quite make eye contact in a meeting. You text someone and they don't get back to you. And it sticks. The whole rest of the day, some part of you can't put it down.
In this episode, Dr. Aziz walks...
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Why You Feel Like You’re Being Judged All The Time
You walk into a room and your guard goes up. Not because anyone said anything. Not because anyone is even looking at you yet. Just the room. If this is you, you've probably called it social anxiety, or being too...
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Why You Can't Say What You Actually Mean
You knew exactly what you wanted to say. Then something softer came out instead. It happens at work, with your partner, with your parents. Every time, you walk away wondering why you keep doing this.
In this episode,...
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Why You Need People To Like You (Even When You Don’t Like Them)
You can explain your work to a friend over dinner. In front of your boss, the same words fall apart. Most people call this social anxiety, or I just lack confidence in those situations. It isn't either of those...
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The 4 Ways You Override Yourself Around People
You knew exactly what you wanted to say. Then something softer came out instead. There's a specific reason this keeps happening, and it isn't a confidence problem.
In this episode, Dr. Aziz breaks down the four ways...
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