7 Ways To Boost Your Confidence NOWJan 19, 2023
Do you wanna significantly boost your confidence quickly?
If you said yes, you’re in luck because I’m going to teach you seven things you can do now that will immediately affect your confidence.
Some of these things are simple. But don’t let that trick you into thinking that it’s not going to do anything.
In fact, if you consider any sports figure or anyone who’s good in business, they focus on the fundamentals. They do the little things again and again, and that is what is part of this.
In order to apply these seven things, you have to know one thing:
Confidence is a skill.
Another way to think of it is that confidence is a muscle. If you build that muscle, it will get stronger.
These are seven ways that you can start to build that muscle.
If you let that inner critic run around and pull you by the nose and say you’re a loser, your confidence will drain significantly by the minute, by the second.
Similarly, they won’t want to talk to you if you think you’re right. You are just getting pulled around—you’re under the thumb of that inner critic.
Therefore, the first thing you must do is gain control of that process.
Stop the hemorrhaging of your confidence because no matter how much you grow, take on, or succeed, it’ll all turn to ash because your perception demoralizes you when that critic is vocal.
You have to LEAN IN rather than avoid.
What does leaning in mean?
The question I love to ask people is, If you were 100% confident, if you had ten times the confidence you have now, what would you be doing right now instead of at some future date?
Their answer is usually,”Well, I would go talk to people, or I would do this, I would do that,” etc.
That is where you need to lean in.
So what does it mean to lean in?
Leaning in means building that muscle slowly, systematically, and step-by-step.
It doesn’t mean jumping into the deep end of the pool and trying to force yourself to do everything in one day.
That is not conducive to building muscle. That’s how you pull your muscle and get sidelined for six months.
Instead, think of that one thing you’re avoiding. Just lean in and do a little bit of it.
JUST LEAN IN.
You don’t have to be the center of attention and exhibit a huge display of it. Just say “Hi” as you walk past someone.
Just those simple things over time produce a radical shift.
Say “HI” to people.
Speaking of saying “Hi,” that’s the third thing you can do to boost your confidence.
I know in this day and age, it could be considered weird. Why would I talk to other people, not through a screen?
Get out of here!
You have the ability to go to a specific place that is not in the digital ecosphere, where there are people walking around, real humans with tactile bodies, and wave at them and say “Hi.”
Not only that, you can integrate the park three blocks from the supermarket into your life, and walk to the supermarket, too.
You might say, “Wait a minute, that’s weird; I want to do that.”
That demonstrates where you are under the influence of dread of what others will think of you, and the cultural field has authority over you.
It’s not simply a random person’s opinion that determines whether you say “Hi” to people.
Walk to a busy area, say “Hi” to a bunch of people, maybe 5, 10, or 15, and make it your daily rep.
If you do this for a couple of days in a row, you’ll start to notice an immediate shift.
Liberally give compliments to people in life.
If you see someone coming to the office and say, “Nice shirt,” this might seem trivial or inconsequential, but compliments such as these are small reps.
But what is it you’re building a rep of?
The answer is, the expressiveness of social leadership.
Think about a social follower. They’re passive. They might think I speak only when I’m spoken to or I’m somewhat reserved. When someone tries to talk to me, I give them short answers.
They don’t make much eye contact and certainly don’t compliment people.
The opposite of that, being a social leader, is this:
I TAKE RESPONSIBILITY.
Social leaders think: I move towards whom I want to talk to, see people who might be uncomfortable and move towards them to try to welcome them in. It’s just part of what I do.
You will notice this actually expands outwards to your social life. It will help you to compliment your friends and loved ones more easily.
Remember, people love compliments.
It takes confidence to give compliments. So START practicing giving compliments.
Ask yourself this question: “What am I scared of today?”
Sometimes, it can be easy to think I’m not scared of anything; I’m too macho.
If you have ever thought along these lines, then ask yourself this: what would be uncomfortable for you to do today?
Think of something, then do that very thing as soon as you can upon waking up.
Or maybe your work day starts at a certain time, and it’s something at work. Do that thing right at the beginning of your work day.
Brian Tracy had a great phrase for it. He said, “Eat the frog first.”
Initially, eating the frog was uncomfortable and kind of gross. You do that right away because if you put it off and say “I’ll get to that later,” you won’t. YOU JUST SIMPLY DO IT.
The Five Second Rule.
This is from Mel Robbins. She’s got a great book called The Five Second Rule. If you haven’t read it, check it out.
Simply to get yourself to do the uncomfortable things, practice the five-second rule liberally throughout the day.
What does that mean?
It means when you think oh, there’s a thing I wanted to do at work, but it’s uncomfortable, and I don’t want to do it.
Give yourself that five-second countdown. Start counting 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
By the time you get to 1, you’re moving towards it.
You’re doing it—and this is a muscle.
You can practice this with simpler things, like getting out of bed.
Carry yourself with dignity.
The last thing that you can do today to boost your confidence is so simple you’re going to think there’s no point in doing it. But trust me, there is.
It is your physiology and your posture.
Carry yourself with dignity.
Carry yourself like you matter.
Walk around the room like you own it.
Doing this brings your shoulder blades together, opens your chest, and raises your head’s up.
This is especially important considering that most people have a cell phone neck these days. It’s a modern-day nerd posture, which I have too.
We got to counteract that. Look to the horizon and intentionally move, not just when you’re talking to people, but move around your house this way.
When you’re going to make a sandwich, when you’re going to go walk towards your car, just move with this, and that will start to shift your confidence.
Until we speak again, may we have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you’re awesome.
Reading blogs and watching videos online is a start...
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