How To Make More Friends
Nov 14, 2024Have you ever wished you could make deeper, more meaningful friendships, but felt held back by social anxiety or self-doubt? You’re not alone. Many people long for true connections but struggle with feeling like they’re just not cut out for making friends. But the truth is, it’s absolutely possible for you to build the beautiful friendships you crave, even if you feel shy or not the most extroverted person in the room. In today’s post, I’m going to walk you through some key steps to help you start building deeper, lasting friendships.
What Kind of Friendships Do You Want?
Before you start connecting with others, it’s important to understand exactly what kind of friendships you're looking for. Are you seeking many acquaintances, a wide circle of people to hang out with and share experiences? Or do you prefer deeper connections with a few close friends you can trust and rely on?
“You are the captain of your ship,” as I often say. If you’re just floating through life hoping to stumble upon friends, you might end up with shallow connections that don’t really nourish you. It’s time to architect and design the social life that you want. Take a moment to reflect: What would truly nourish me?
Step 1: Put Yourself in the Right Spaces
Once you’ve figured out what kind of connections you want, the next step is to find places and activities that will help you meet like-minded people. Look for environments that align with your interests. Whether it’s a hobby, a workout class, or a community group, being around people who share your passions creates natural opportunities for connection.
You don’t need to force yourself into social situations that don’t feel right. Instead, find spaces where you can be yourself while also interacting with others. If you love yoga, join a class. If you’re into reading, check out a local book club. The key is to get involved in places where the conversations can start organically.
Step 2: Take the Initiative and Go Deeper
Here’s the tough part: You have to initiate. It’s not enough to just be in the right spaces – you’ve got to interact with others. Yes, it can be uncomfortable at first. I know, I’ve been there myself. But trust me, the more you practice, the easier it gets.
Start with small talk – “Hey, what’s your name? What brings you here today?” Then, once you’re past the basics, push yourself to go deeper. Ask meaningful questions: “What do you enjoy doing in your free time?” or “What’s something you’ve been really passionate about lately?” People love to talk about what excites them, and showing genuine curiosity helps build a deeper connection.
But don’t stop there. After a good conversation, take the initiative to invite them for a coffee, a walk, or a casual hangout. You don’t need to rush the process, but you do need to move it forward.
Step 3: Overcome the Voice of Doubt
One of the biggest obstacles people face when trying to make friends is the voice of self-doubt. “They’re not going to like me.” “I’m not interesting enough.” “What if I mess up?” These thoughts can be paralyzing, but they are just stories your mind is telling you. Most people are open to making new connections, and by showing warmth and curiosity, you’ll naturally attract people who are receptive to your energy.
As I often teach my clients, it’s not about being perfect – it’s about showing up authentically and being willing to take the risk of reaching out. Even if someone isn’t receptive, it’s not about you. You’ll find someone who is.
The Power of Small, Consistent Actions
Remember, building meaningful friendships is not an overnight process. It takes consistent effort, but the rewards are worth it. By putting yourself in the right spaces, initiating conversations, and overcoming self-doubt, you can create the lasting friendships you truly desire.
If you’ve ever felt like social anxiety or fear of rejection was holding you back, take a step today. Start small and continue to build your confidence with each conversation. You have the power to create the connections you want.
Until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are, and to know deeply that you’re awesome.
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