I Hate The Sound Of My Own Voice (How To Fix)
Sep 12, 2024
Does hearing a recording of your voice make you want to run for cover? Or maybe it’s seeing yourself on video that makes you recoil. If you’ve ever avoided putting yourself out there—whether for work, social media, or even just in casual videos with friends—because you hate the way you look or sound, you’re not alone. In fact, it’s a common challenge that holds many people back from reaching their full potential, personally and professionally. But what if I told you there’s a simple way to stop this from holding you back?
Why Do We Cringe at Ourselves?
It’s not just vanity or insecurity. When we cringe at our voice or appearance, it’s often because of deeper fears—fear of being judged, fear of rejection, or even fear of failure. We become hyper-aware of every perceived flaw, convinced that others will see (and hear) those flaws and reject us. But here’s the thing: those fears are just stories we tell ourselves. They’re not reality.
In fact, this aversion to your voice or appearance is often a reflection of a bigger issue: discomfort with self-acceptance. When we don’t like ourselves, it’s easy to think others won’t either. But that’s where we can start to change things.
A Powerful Shift: Embrace Exposure
One of the most effective ways to overcome this fear is by leaning into it. Avoiding recording yourself or being on camera just reinforces the belief that you’re not good enough. But when you repeatedly expose yourself to the thing you fear—like hearing your voice on a recording or seeing yourself on video—something amazing happens: the fear starts to lose its grip.
In my own journey, I used to hate hearing my voice. It made me cringe. But the solution wasn’t to wait until I magically liked it one day. Instead, I committed to recording video after video, audio after audio, until it became just another part of life. Over time, I stopped disliking my voice—not because my voice changed, but because I changed how I perceived it.
Start Small, But Start Now
If you’re serious about overcoming this hurdle, commit to recording and sharing videos, audios, or even voice notes with friends. Don’t wait until you “like” your voice—because that day might never come if you avoid the discomfort. Start now, put yourself out there, and trust that the more you do it, the easier it will get.
You don’t need to be perfect, and you don’t need to sound like a polished broadcaster. People connect with authenticity. They care far less about the nuances of your voice than you think they do. What really matters is the message you’re sharing and the confidence you project over time.
You Are Capable of Change
Overcoming this fear isn’t about tricking yourself into loving your voice overnight. It’s about realizing that this discomfort is just a feeling, not a fact. And with practice, the feelings of fear or self-rejection will fade, leaving room for confidence and self-expression.
So go ahead—start recording. Share your message. The world is waiting to hear from you, and I promise, your voice matters.
Until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are, and remember—you are awesome.
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