There Is Only ONE Way To Build ConfidenceOct 06, 2022
Did You Know There Is Only ONE Way To Build Confidence? Yes, there are tons of tools & strategies out there (like therapy approaches, coaching, books & programs). Why have all these books and programs if there’s only one way?
These tools are providing additional guidance and support and help people get ready to do the one way. But no matter how many books you read, or how many programs you buy, if you don’t do this one way you won’t build lasting confidence.
Everything else is ancillary, it's supportive.
This is the one thing:
The ONLY way to build life-changing confidence is to consistently do things that make you uncomfortable.
As a by-product, this practice builds confidence, self-esteem, self-assurance, and a deep sense of competence.
Imagine, for a moment, a boat skimming along the surface of the water. What do you see behind the boat? This is called the wake. It’s the way that the waves kinda ripple out that creates a V-shape wake behind the boat.
The confidence, self-assuredness, and the life that you seek are going to be the wake of the boat. They come AFTER.
You, my friend, are the captain who is steering the boat. And if you steer the boat towards what makes you uncomfortable, then your wake will be confidence, success, and so much more.
To put it another way:
If you are not willing to be uncomfortable you will never have lasting confidence.
Otherwise, it’s all just up and down, bobbing along the waves of circumstance. Your circumstances might improve by good fortune and then you say ‘’God I feel good today!’’
Your circumstances might get worse and degrade due to bad fortune and you say ‘’Oh man, I feel terrible today!’’
The only way to build confidence is to consistently do the things that make you uncomfortable in order to have a by-product of confidence, self-assuredness, and all that you want.
That’s where all the other tools and strategies come in. They’re about helping you find your courage, build self-compassion, and have a new mindset. All of that is supportive and helps you to go take the action that will transform your life (and make you uncomfortable!).
To get access to life-changing confidence-building tools, I highly recommend you explore Confidence University to get a systematic step-by-step approach to building more confidence than ever before.
In addition, you will definitely want to start listening to my podcast—Shrink For The Shy Guy—regularly. Every episode is absolutely free and jam-packed with practical strategies to end social anxiety and boost your confidence now.
Plus, every episode ends with an action step. Because, well, the ONE thing!
One final tip!
If you want more confidence more quickly… Do more uncomfortable actions more often.
It really is that simple, it’s just getting yourself to do it. That’s the hard part, right?
So share down below in the comments, what you find very useful in this blog, or maybe list some uncomfortable stuff you’ve done recently that’s been in the service of building your confidence and now will inspire others here so we can grow together.
Until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you’re awesome!
Reading blogs and watching videos online is a start...
When you are ready to radically transform your confidence so you speak up freely, boldly go after what you want, connect easily with others and be 100% unapologetically yourself, coaching is the answer.